LG: "Mamamama, O-ie hit me!"
MB: "LG, O-ie is strapped in. His arms can't even reach you!"
LG: "He hit me with HIS MIND."
This week's Spin Cycle is all about wishes. What we wish for mostest. That thing we hold in our hearts, and makes us wish on stars and candles and bones at Thanksgiving. That thing you want so much you dare not imagine it too much for fear that all your daydreaming will make it not come true.
I was going to blow this one off by saying, "I don't wish for anything right now. I have everything I want, and I can work for the rest." But I realized yesterday, that's just not true. There is something that I want that I have absolutely no control over. No amount of hard work or saving will get it. I can exude some influence, but the end result will have very little to do with me.
It came to me yesterday when I was watching the boys play. I want them to be best friends. Not just brothers, or buddies. I want them to be like Phineas and Ferb. Or Jake and Elwood. I can't explain it any better than that. I don't care what it is they do- form a band, go to jail, build a rocket to mars, cure cancer (ok, maybe not go to jail) as long as they do it together.
I don't want o to be the banished "little brother" or LG to be the "one who gets to do things first". I want them to have a gang of friends that includes each other. Because this matters in all the little ways. When people gush over little o, most times LG will say, "He's my little brother. Say hi O-ie!" instead of glowering over it. When LG gets his license, I'd like him to say, "Hey, o, let's go ride!" instead of lording it over him and leaving him pining in a cloud of dust. Encouraging each other instead of always competing.
I know this most likely won't happen. Most likely, they will grow up, get jobs, get married, have a few kids. They'll get together on holidays, maybe in between once or twice. They'll write on each other's Facespace walls, maybe join the same softball league, or borrow each others tools. They'll see each other at my house. Hear about one another's trauma and triumph through me. That's the way it goes for most siblings.
But this is my wish. And I get to wish it any way I want, right? So, best friends it is.
Now, go see what everyone else wants at Sprite's Keeper. And if you send a link to this blog to 100 people in the next 10 seconds, your wish will come true! I promise! A new jag in your driveway, even.