Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Spin Cycle- Wishes

LG:  "Mamamama, O-ie hit me!"
MB:  "LG, O-ie is strapped in.  His arms can't even reach you!"
LG:  "He hit me with HIS MIND."

This week's Spin Cycle is all about wishes.  What we wish for mostest.  That thing we hold in our hearts, and makes us wish on stars and candles and bones at Thanksgiving.  That thing you want so much you dare not imagine it too much for fear that all your daydreaming will make it not come true.

I was going to blow this one off by saying, "I don't wish for anything right now.  I have everything I want, and I can work for the rest."  But I realized yesterday, that's just not true.  There is something that I want that I have absolutely no control over.  No amount of hard work or saving will get it.  I can exude some influence, but the end result will have very little to do with me.

It came to me yesterday when I was watching the boys play.  I want them to be best friends. Not just brothers, or buddies.  I want them to be like Phineas and Ferb.  Or Jake and Elwood.  I can't explain it any better than that.  I don't care what it is they do- form a band, go to jail, build a rocket to mars, cure cancer (ok, maybe not go to jail) as long as they do it together.

I don't want o to be the banished "little brother" or LG to be the "one who gets to do things first".  I want them to have a gang of friends that includes each other. Because this matters in all the little ways.  When people gush over little o, most times LG will say, "He's my little brother.  Say hi O-ie!" instead of glowering over it.  When LG gets his license, I'd like him to say, "Hey, o, let's go ride!" instead of lording it over him and leaving him pining in a cloud of dust.  Encouraging each other instead of always competing. 

I know this most likely won't happen.  Most likely, they will grow up, get jobs, get married, have a few kids.  They'll get together on holidays, maybe in between once or twice.  They'll write on each other's Facespace walls, maybe join the same softball league, or borrow each others tools.  They'll see each other at my house.  Hear about one another's trauma and triumph through me.  That's the way it goes for most siblings. 

But this is my wish.  And I get to wish it any way I want, right? So, best friends it is. 

Now, go see what everyone else wants at Sprite's Keeper.  And if you send a link to this blog to 100 people in the next 10 seconds, your wish will come true!  I promise!  A new jag in your driveway, even.


Sprite's Keeper said...

My sister and I are close now so I would like to think we are an exception to the rule of siblings, but I do see relationships go into neutral when one or both leaves the house. Sigh. I hope your wish comes true. You're linked!

blueviolet said...

I really think it could happen just the way you want! I have one of each and that's very rare that they're close, but since there are just two...they are so tightly bonded. Your boys will probably be BFF's forever!

Jan said...

I'm not close to my siblings, although my brother and I get along fine - we talk and email but aren't what you'd call best buddies. I'll take it though; my sisters won't speak to me. I'm very fortunate, though, that all 3 of my kids are very close - they all ARE best friends. I hope your wish comes true, too!

The Crazy Coxes said...

I love your wish! It will come true! My brothers are that close and my boys are that close. It is the most awesome, wonderful thing in the world.

Annabelle said...

this made me cry.

to be fair, that seems to be the case with me a lot lately, but that was so very sweet.

I think your wish can most definitely chime true.

VandyJ said...

Since my boys are farther apart they will be more distant growing up, but I wish that they will be close when they are grown. I hope they will at any rate.

Anonymous said...

That is a fine wish. I have great siblings that I would definitely choose for friends if they were not family first.

Patty O. said...

I have the very same wish for my kids! I so want them to be good friends throughout life. Maybe it has something to do with how my twin brother and I have drifted apart over the years. we used to be inseparable, but now, not so much. I still talk to him and see him regularly, but it's just not the same. Luckily, my sister and younger brother and I are still very close.

CaJoh said...

Oh, I just LOVE the picture of the two in their hats and Hawaiian shirts. Makes you wish they could remain little forever.

Awesome wish and great spin!

Kate said...

Perfect wish! I love the story at the beginning...he hit me with his MIND.

Pseudo said...

That is an awesome wish. I wish it for you and your boys too.