Thursday, June 10, 2010

Spin- The Ties that Bind...

No, not neckties.  Or

Twist ties.  Sprite's Keeper wants to talk about "the ties that bind".  The things that make us "family", or "friends", or "mortal enemies" or what have you.

I had a sudden revelation the other day.  At lunch with my co-workers.  Who thought it was hysterical.  We were talking about how kids change at different ages.  We talked about whether or not you really grow out of the "terrible twos" at three.  And they asked how LG is doing with the ttsUhm, well, terrible.  He and I fight constantly.  Because he is stubborn, but his stubborn is nothing compared to my stubborn.  I have practice.  While I would love to say I pick my battles wisely, I frequently do not.  I dig in.  PB tries to rescue me, but I won't allow it.  Many nights there is a battle of wills.  Someone ends up crying or throwing something.  Which of us that is depends on the night.  Someone apologizes and we make up.  PB and little o go hide somewhere.  And after I tell them this, one of my co-workers said, "Because he's just like you."   

What?  No, I thought.  He's like PB.  Energetic and fun and smart.  He sings and dances and talks constantly.  He's too busy moving to eat, and he doesn't care about convention.  He loves a good adventure and has no fear.  He's fiercely independent.  He's too busy to give you more than a quick hug and kiss.  He does not cuddle.  Frequently, he won't smile even when he's happy.  Oh, no.  That doesn't describe PB at all.  Damn, they were right.  LG is a mini-me.  

Which lead me to think more about little O.  For the past 9 months, I've said little O doesn't fit in.  But he does.  He is completely PBs child.  He smiles all the time (many teachers at school tell me that they get more smiles from little o on the first day they meet him than in the whole time they've known LG).  He's content.  He's outright happy most of the time.  He is a cuddler.  He's not the utter spaz his older brother is.  He will go with the flow almost all the time.  There's almost nothing that a snack and a fresh diaper can't fix.  But piss him off?  And you will find a stubborn streak like no other.  He will scream until he is good and done.  He will not waiver or listen to reason.  He's just like his father.  No wonder he and I get along so well.

Just goes to show that the ties that bind go far deeper than brown eyes, or knobby knees.  Who and what you are, where you go and become are truly a product of where you came from.  And the fact that I lived to see 18?  Is a testament to the fact that my father intervened on my behalf quite frequently.

PS-  The best thing I've heard in weeks:

"It's ok, O.  Don't cry.  I right here.  We together."

8 comments:

VandyJ said...

We are noticing our persoanlity traits coming out in our kids too. Turbo is lots like Nick adn Bruiser is lots like me. God help us.

Sprite's Keeper said...

That's right! Everyone thinks that because Sprite looks so much like her dad, she'll be the same laid back easy going personality he is. Then she opens her mouth and they get... me. Funny, while it took some people a while to get used to me, they think my personality is great right off the bat when it comes from her... :-)
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Jan said...

Oldest Son = me

Darling Daughter = her father (sigh)

The Young One = the best of me and his father (thank goodness; I don't think the world could handle a combination of our worst)

Jolly = her father...OMG, her father...

Miss J = her mother (cringe)

blueviolet said...

My kids are like night and day, and my daughter and her dad butt heads because they're so alike.

Jamie said...

Isn't it amazing that the people we are most likely to butt heads with are the people MOST like ourselves? My baby brother and I are so much alike we can't stand each other. I am not sure who the Man Cub takes after, maybe it is a good combo of the two of us because we both really like him :)

Patty O. said...

I see this in my kids, too. They each have traits of me and my husband, and those are the ones that drive us the most crazy. Like my son is a bit absent-minded, just like his dad and it bugs my husband, which I think is funny. Of course, when my daughter throws a tantrum not unlike one I would throw, it drives me nuts.

CaJoh said...

I have a theory that many personality traits go from Father to Daughter, Mother to Son. However, I know that I get different personality traits from both my mother and my father (so I guess I'm my parent's child after all).

Great Spin,

Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings said...

The traits of kids are so interesting and someone can say "Oh, they are just like you...or just like their dad," but it isn't true. They are just like themselves! Loved this post!