This week's Spin Cycle is all about the Prom (the Prom, Prom, Senior Formal-what do they call it where you're from?) Anyhoodle, I gave you about all I have about my own prom this time last year. It wasn't very exciting, I promise.
As I was cleaning my gutters this afternoon, realizing I haven't been too good about doing a Spin Cycle recently, I wondered what new info I could give you. I pondered the Prom, and instead of thinking about the past, I pondered about the future.
Please don't get me wrong, I love my boys to no end. I love the snippets and snails and puppy dog tails. Ball caps and trucks and little sweater vests. But there are things I'm going to miss out on because I don't have a girl.
Aside: Please don't leave a comment about PB and I having another baby. #2 is less than a year old, this idea has been tabled. And even if we did have a 3rd, it wouldn't be because we want a girl. That's just setting yourself up for disappointment. If we try again, it will be because we want a 3rd baby, boy or girl. Back to the story.
Right now I do miss being able to put someone's hair in piggy tails, and buy little dresses on holidays. Fancy hats for Easter, and dolls that you can dress up. But I only miss it for a second. I have lots of neices, and LG has a girlfriend, and I can get out all my cutsie stuff on them. But not having a little girl means not having quite the same experience for most of the major life events. Prom is just one of those things.
When the boys go to prom, we'll have to shell out the clams for a tux, a haircut (hopefully), the tickets and maybe a limo. But we won't have to go to 9 different stores, and spend hours on the phone wondering if we got the right dress. We won't have a hair appointment, and wonder if we should pay for a professional manicure, of if I should paint her nails at home. There won't be a discussion about whether or not she has to attend school for the whole day, or if she can cut out after 4th period (which is when our school allowed kids going to the prom to leave!) I won't get any of that. If I'm lucky, the parents of the girls that are my boys dates will invite us over to take a few pictures and see them all off in the limo (and if I'm not lucky, I won't get to see them with their dates at all). It's kind of sad.
The same goes for weddings. I'll get my limited "Mother of the Groom" role, and I'll have to settle for looking stunning in light blue. But it's the brides mother that helps search for a dress, and pick out flowers.
I know I should look on the bright side. I can hear the mother's of teenagers say, it's a blessing not to have to fight over hem length, or too much makeup. Worrying about what they do when they stay out all night. But, all the same, it's fun, too.
And that, Spinners, is what Prom means to me right now.